Let's talk about MASTERY. I use the word quite often. Mastery is an obsession for me. My upcoming Masterclass is called, How to Become a World Class Transformational Coach, which means, "How to be a Master at what you do." What does Mastery mean in a VUCA world? VUCA is...
Dear Important and Precious Woman: On behalf of myself, and on behalf of many of my brothers, I want to apologize to you. This apology is for you, specifically, and secondarily for all women. I wish I could speak on behalf of all men, but sadly,...
This is one of my favorite essays ever published. It originally appeared in Esquire Magazine, in their October 1993 issue. Mental bungee-jumping may not be your sport of choice, but there’s a cerebral ledge that sooner or later each of us has to leap off. One day,...
[Originally published as a Choice Magazine Expert Series] In this 4-part series, we examine BELIEFS – what they are, how they function, and how they impact your client’s behavior (and your own, as well). Part 1: What To Do When Your Client’s Behavior Confuses You Have you had clients who...
[First published in Choice Magazine for Coaches] Most of us recognize the negative power that limiting beliefs play in our lives, and in our clients' lives. But what is the source of beliefs? How did those beliefs form in the first place? And why? And can you...
[First published in Choice, The Magazine of Professional Coaching, Volume 19, Number 1, 2021] It has finally dawned on Western society that underneath most our deep problems, issues, and discomforts are wounds and traumas from the past. These Adverse Childhood Experiences have been well documented by...
Published in Coaching World, the magazine of the International Coach Federation . Your client offers another excuse as to why they didn’t do what they committed to in your last session. You’ve seen this pattern lead to failure, and know you need to focus on the underlying...
Do you ever judge other people? Do you judge yourself? It’s a very human thing to do. We know what it feels like to be judged by another person. It feels crappy. So why do we do it to others? There’s a good reason, but we...
Brene’ Brown, PhD (author of The Gifts of Imperfection) has spoken articulately about shame, and I can feel the force of that emotion inside of me. I am able to facilitate deep transformation in others only because I have looked deeply into myself, into the core...
Beliefs are useful. They eliminate the discomfort of the unknown. A rule of the mind states: "Familiar is safe and comfortable. Unfamiliar is dangerous and uncomfortable." Our biological and anthropological history installed anxiety as a survival mechanism. This deep program was useful when the world was full...