Published in Coaching World, the magazine of the International Coach Federation . Your client offers another excuse as to why they didn’t do what they committed to in your last session. You’ve seen this pattern lead to failure, and know you need to focus on the underlying...
Do you ever judge other people? Do you judge yourself? It’s a very human thing to do. We know what it feels like to be judged by another person. It feels crappy. So why do we do it to others? There’s a good reason, but we...
Brene’ Brown, PhD (author of The Gifts of Imperfection) has spoken articulately about shame, and I can feel the force of that emotion inside of me. I am able to facilitate deep transformation in others only because I have looked deeply into myself, into the core...
Beliefs are useful. They eliminate the discomfort of the unknown. A rule of the mind states: "Familiar is safe and comfortable. Unfamiliar is dangerous and uncomfortable." Our biological and anthropological history installed anxiety as a survival mechanism. This deep program was useful when the world was full...
During a presentation to the Los Angeles Chapter of the International Coach Federation, a coach asked me whether transformation could be as quick and efficient as I had claimed in my talk. “I’ve tried other techniques,” she said, “but the only thing that’s worked is...
“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” Napoleon Hill (1883-1970) wrote this famous line in his classic 1937 book, Think and Grow Rich. Hill drew on stories of Andrew Carnegie, Thomas Edison, Henry Ford, and other millionaires of his generation to illustrate his...
For decades, I wanted more. More stuff. More money. More clients. More friends. More love. More attention. This egotistical desire served me well. I got a lot of everything, and in many cases, more than I could handle! The hunger for “more” seems to be...
Looking out over an ocean of colorful faces and blue uniforms, I see a room-full of prisoners inside San Quentin Prison. All shades of flesh color the room, from dark blue-black to the brightest lily white, and every shade of brown, beige and tan. Their...
Published in ICF's Coaching World Magazine Your client explains why they didn’t do what they committed to do in your last session. You’ve seen this pattern before – and know that it has led to their failures in the past. It will likely lead to failure...
After studying more than twenty different belief-change methodologies, I was able to identify seven crucial elements of the belief change process. I tested these methodologies personally, and also with my clients. If all seven are present, a belief can be completely eliminated from the core...